in his arms.
With love, this stranger gently persuaded our son to happily sit down
and be buckled. We have never forgotten that true good Samaritan and the
lesson he taught us.
Disciplining takes time, love and great self-discipline on the
parents' part. It's when we are too tired or too busy to discipline that
we lose control ourselves and lose the ability to discipline with love.
We can't make idle threats. We must take the mental time to determine
the consequences of a threat and whether we will want to carry it out.
Then, if called for, follow through.
Disciplining is a private thing, between the parent and child. With
love, it is even a bonding between the parent and child. Relaxed
discipline necessitates time as a family, without neighbors, friends or
even grandparents around.
Don't forget humor, always a soothing salve. My husband would often
say, "I'll give you till the count of 10 to ----" And then, with a big
grin, "One, 10!"
Remember there is negotiable and non-negotiable behavior.
What is REALLY important? Robbing a bank we cannot tolerate, but,
really, who cares if a child's room is clean.
Television and now computers are great family projects. The computer
and television should be in a family room where we can plan time and
choice of programs together.
One of our visiting adult sons noticed the "list" on the counter that
I had prepared for a talk on raising children.
"What's this, Mom?"
"Oh, notes for a talk I've been invited to give."
"What's this 'No TV on school nights?' "
"Why that's the way we lived."
"Well", he said, "there was at least no TV on school nights when Mom
or Dad were home."
We learn from our kids. Yes, we as parents need to be home, loving,
nurturing and enjoying family time.
JEANNE BROBERG is a member of the Women's Relief Society of the
Verdugo Hills 1st Ward of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints
in La Crescenta. She and her husband, Dr. Charles Broberg, a local
obstetrician/gynecologist, have raised eight children and now have 16
grandchildren. Jeanne is in her seventh year as part of the La Canada
Unified School district School Board.