We learn about grammar, usage and spelling mostly by reading. That's our reference point every time we say that something "looks wrong."
For example, the final S in "I'm going to the Thomases's house." When we see something like this, our eye sends an alarm that tells our brains to start applying whatever knowledge it holds. Then we remember that plurals like cats and the Thomases are made possessive by tacking on just an apostrophe: the cats' house, the Thomases' house. All that starts with reading.
But every once in a while, the people overseeing what you read change the rules, as the "Chicago Manual of Style" did recently when it released its 16th edition. "Chicago," as you may recall, is the rule book followed by most book publishers and many magazine publishers, too. It differs a lot from AP style, which sets the standard for most news writing.