These may be random examples, but we can all plug our story in here. There is absolutely a time to grieve; I am sensitive to this. To not acknowledge another's grief is callous, to tell them to be thankful for other things during a season of grief, cruel. I just came off four years of continuous trials, several at once. Then my child had an accident, and someone passed away in my professional life.
A friend said to me, "When I heard this I thought, 'God, not Kimberlie. She has been through so much.'"
I didn't feel that way. I was thankful for my child being all right, healthy and happy in fact. And although I was grieved by the passing of another individual, I was thankful for other things: the shelter I have today, my family, friends, my relationship with God and His peace. You get the idea.
So as we embark on Thanksgiving tomorrow, what are you actually grateful for, not just thankful? Perhaps it is a year of tremendous blessing and peace. Rejoice! It is good to be joyful. We are not created to sit and endure trial after trial without joy or reprieve.
What if you are suffering? Does agony make bad circumstances work out quicker? Does it bring resolve? No. Sadness actually does do our body, brains and emotions harm. That is why finding positives in our lives to be thankful for brings a shifting to our gaze; our cheeks are turned toward the light instead of being stuck, unmoving in the darkness.
Joy keeps us vigorous, able to have the strength and peace to effectively work through trials, and keeps situational depression at bay in many cases.