We spent New Year's Eve two years ago in Dubai en route to Ethiopia to meet our son for the first time. Thanksgiving this year was a grilled turkey sandwich in the Dubai airport making the same trek, this time to pick up our little girl. While not the most typical of celebrations, these particular holidays are now part of a much larger story.
Whenever our adoption comes up in conversation, which usually begins with "what did you do for the holidays?" I am always intrigued by where it leads. People will see us a little differently, often in a positive light, but how they see themselves changes a little too. This is because for many people, they begin to wonder if this is something that they could do.
The short answer is "yes," but nothing says you have to.
How anyone comes to the decision to put their family together is different, including not doing it at all. One of the things you learn from this process is you can't judge the decisions anyone makes. But I can tell you that the process isn't any more difficult than having a baby the old-fashioned way.