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Faith and Life: The unhealthy view of sex

June 10, 2011|By Kimberlie Zakarian

Our society and media have done a great deal to taint and perversely hardwire our brains for an unhealthy view of sex.

In treating men and women in my practice who struggle with sex addiction or pornography — or who are simply are still stuck with images they have seen in the past that still influence their memories and sex lives — I feel deeply disappointed. Media has cultivated images and resources that have perverted people’s views of sex. And this phenomenon affects both genders.

We are sexual beings. God gave us the ability to not just lust, as the world portrays, but to fall in love and be deeply connected with someone to the point where emotional intimacy occurs. From there, the bond grows deeper to sexual intimacy. If God’s design and intent is followed, there is little heartbreak, less sexual struggle, less baggage and no sexually transmitted diseases.

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But society has allowed countless ways for individuals to not only access sexual images at the touch of a computer, but also to deaden our moral compass, leading to the need for more and more stimuli, still not being satisfied, and then reaching out to go beyond what a person would ever imagine, and get involved in cyber sex or prostitution. And believe me, Christians, and even those in spiritual leadership, are not immune, once that first step is taken.

I listen to men who have gone down the line from what they deem normal attraction to porn, to massage parlors, to occasional prostitution to weekly visits, to hiding the financial deficit of such visits, and to feeling disgusted after — only to keep doing it, because now it is an addiction. And addictions are not always enjoyable.

I have treated a woman who was sexualized so early in life that she now is aroused by images of women being submissive and degraded. The most common issue I see in my practice is men who started out with mainstream porn only to move on to fetishes and images leading to the humiliation and torture of women.

Why has making women suffer become sexually stimulating? When we think of God’s love for man and woman as he created them, the value he put upon us, and the gift of sexuality, we understand that he would never incorporate torture of precious human beings to be stimulating. The women who volunteer for these types of videos or images are lost as well. Yet society buys into their low self-esteem and acts that humiliate them for sexual release.

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